We all have our best friends. There’s your friend who’s your “best friend,” your boyfriend who’s your “best friend,” and your mom (it’s like you have your first cousins, and then you have your second cousins…). She’s been there from the start – the very naked, screaming start – and she’ll be there until the end.
My mom and I have always been close. I mean, we look enough alike that I undeniably have her blood. I’m lucky enough to have the best mom in the world (we all are, right?), who I swear is more like the big sister I never had mixed with a fairy princess and a chef. I will forever stand by this: It IS possible to have your mother be a mom and a best friend. If you and your mom are like us, you just might be besties, too.
1. You shop together. Going on these treasure hunt missions just because and causing inevitable havoc in the dressing rooms. There are enough piles of clothes in your cart to make the attendant roll her eyes and give you that look, but really you both are like, “Please, we hit the jackpot.”
2. You sneak in extra clothes to the dressing rooms and add to said piles.
3. You bring in clothes for each other to meet the dressing room limit requirements. I swear anyone who hears our laughing from outside must think we’ve either a.) lost our minds or b.) are taking selfies. In reality, I probably got a dress stuck halfway on/off my body with my head covered and both of my arms trapped above my head and I’m screamlaughing for help as my mom laughs and we can’t breathe.
4. You enjoy talking. Just talking. About anything and everything, literally. (We’re talking fashion, friends, food, guys, other people’s friends, other people’s guys, and periods).
5. You end fights quicker than they began. If we do get mad at each other, we hit an hour max.
6. She handles your sleepy haha’s. If I’m home late at night, mom is the best (read: only) recipient for my ridiculous bouts of more than likely haha’s. (Sleepy haha’s: Near-delusional rants and thoughts mixed with insomnia and giggles). And it doesn’t take long before mom has them, too, so they’re either contagious or inherited. Maybe both.
7. You do organic dark chocolate face masks together. And mudslides.
8. “You’re not going to wear that, are you?” We can be real with each other. Sometimes, too real.
9. You walk and talk. We walk (and walk and walk) on this adorbs trail by my parents’ house. Because trails are green and we’re all about saving the whales.
10. She knows more about you than anyone else. The good, the bad, the everything – from 20+ years of life.
11. You’re allowed to go all Stacy London on her closet. That’s a whole lotta bad mom jeans in there, mixed with 80s/90s fads that will undoubtedly come back. Just give ‘em a year (or two).
12. Ice cream is eaten like this: 1 carton, 2 spoons. And if we’re feeling fancy, bring out the whipped cream.
13. You know without asking that your lunch date means splitting every meal. We always order different things so we can aptly share. But that’s after subconsciously picking the same thing and consciously needing to mix it up. #greatmindsthinkalike
14. Unconditional love and acceptance is an obvious.
15. Who else will watch Audrey Hepburn movies with you?
16. Who else will watch Hallmark Christmas romcoms with you?
17. You’re trash reality TV whores together.
18. You actually don’t mind having the same clothing and/or accessories. We’ve had the conversation, “It’s ok if you buy it, too!” Twinsies to a whole new level. My confession: She still hasn’t gotten back some of the jewelry that I “borrowed.” She notices that they’re gone and calls me out, but she still lets me take my good old time getting them back. Mom Confession: She goes through my accessories when I’m at school.
19. She never gives up on offering you the words of wisdom that you desperately don’t want to hear but desperately need to.
20. She’s willing to catsit at the drop of a hat. Even offers to keep her for good. (Very funny, mom). Most importantly, she now stashes cat toys and treats in the house. What a good cat Grandmom.
21. You get texts at college when she finds a killer clearance sale. Hollah for a dollah!
22. You can sing in the car together – loudly and off-key (For clarification: Mom = off-key).
23. You have little shared routines and rituals. If we pass a Panera’s, we MUST stop for an Asagio cheese bagel, which we eat in the car – and yes, we share it 50/50. And we do lunch. And we hit Ross together. And watch a romcom flick or The Bachelorette – These things are all just givens when we can spend time together.
24. She knows your mood by the sound of your voice on the phone – heck, she even knows your mood by the way you text, even if it’s just one word.
25. And if you are together, there is no need for words at all because she just knows you that well.
26. If you laugh, she laughs; if you cry, she cries with you. And she doesn’t even need to know the reason. Then she will hand you tissues and help you to come back to your senses (or something like that)
27. When you start your own blog, your mom plays grammar police and texts you immediately if something doesn’t look or sound quite right – and you don’t mind. Except when you’re on the train and can’t edit for another hour or two (feel my frustration!).
28. You can make the most mundane things fun together. Try grocery shopping with us without busting a gut.
29. Sometimes you buy each other favorite little things like candy, coffee, or candles just because you know the other would love it.
30. You cover for each other when necessary – and nope we aren’t explaining that one – if you get it, then you got it 😉
31. And finally, yes we collaborated on this blog and had a blast doing it. If you and your momma can share a Google doc throughout a thunderstorm and power outages and iMessaging and make it all work in between the lightning bolts, than by golly you’re best friends.
And now, a special message from…
So, Erica asked me to introduce myself to her readers, – nothing like a little pressure. But I actually should be used to that by now because there is never a dull moment to being her mom (and that’s a good thing)(okay, most of the time). Anyway, besides the mom role (my favorite), I work full-time as a high school nurse, love hanging out with my husband, family, and friends, and enjoy learning or trying something new every day. Life is precious – cherish every moment, and as I have always told Erica, go after what you want.Thanks for reading Erica’s blog – take my word for it – sharing her world is an adventure you don’t want to miss!
So many thanks are in order 24/7 to this woman, so I won’t even begin to breach that here and now. She’s been inspiring me from even before the times when I’d get too many books from the library and expect her to read them all with me in one night (which she did. #yougoglencoco).
Are you and your mom best friends, too? What are some of your best memories together? This week, the momma and I will be replying to your comments together! Wooooo!
And, if you really love your mom, share this giveaway with her for the chance to win $40 to Ulta, a MaryKay Satin Hands gift package, and a hotter than hot pink bamboo nail lacquer (Go 60/40 on the gift card).
Hope your hump day has been beeeeeeeeeautiful! Now go call up your best friend.