If you wake up every morning already feelin’ on cloud 9, confident and clear on what you’ve gotta do and ready to make it happen, then you must be Oprah’s second coming. Chances are, we all have those days where bed sounds better than badass-ing. And honestly, sometimes we need that little R&R to recharge! But on days when we don’t have the luxury of sleeping in and taking some time, it’s important to be able to get up and at ’em in a positive mindset, without begrudging every step o’ the way.
You’ve gotta have the courage to be the badass you were born to be.
Even when you feel nothing of the sort, you are. You’re a badass doctor-in-training, badass intern, badass fashionista, badass mom, badass friend, badass artist…you’re a badass. (If you’re not convinced of that, you must read this book, like, yesterday).
These are my favorite tips for feeling like a total badass, stat.
Stop explaining yourself. Start paying attention to every time you hear someone, especially a woman, say “I’m sorry” when there’s actually no need to truly be sorry. And watch when she started justifying and explaining her thoughts or actions on autopilot, as if the fact that they were her own personal thoughts or opinions isn’t good enough warrant to be shared openly. Honestly…this happens all the time, and we don’t even realize it. Nix the need to justify yourself. You’re already justified. Your opinion means just as much as anyone else’s, regardless of how it feels in the world sometimes.
Wear leather. Or in my/most cases, pleather. 😉 Automatic badass boost.
Learn how to actually kick ass. Take a kickboxing class, enroll in martial arts, lift weights, and physically strengthen yourself to a place where you feel confident and strong. Does it feel hard? Of course it does. But you can do hard things. (Don’t believe that? Read this.) Keep on keepin’ on until you feel powerful in the amazing body that you have!
Know thy worth. You are worthy of your dreams. You are worthy of future successes. You are worthy of doing the things you’ve always wanted to set out to do! Know your strengths – and also your weaknesses! – and try to get as closely aligned with ’em as possible. It doesn’t mean inflate your head to believing you’re a total rockstar at everything you do…you’re not. None of us are. What it DOES mean, is realistically know your worth. Know the sum of what makes you you and what makes you stand out from the crowd. And then…
OWN thy worth. Own it accordingly. You know your strengths, your weaknesses, the overall essence of your personal greatness. Now say it out loud! Get comfy cozy with acknowledging your own goodness. Not in a haughty sorta way, but in a natural confidence sorta way! Being confident doesn’t automatically make you an a$$hole, and being an a$$hole doesn’t mean you’re confident. They’re mutually exclusive, so find and know your worth and embrace it, owning it with confidence.
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Start sweating. Runner’s high ain’t just for runners! That amazing feeling you have after finishing a workout isn’t just because you’re done (ha!) – it’s that surge of endorphins that comes with a good sweat. You’ll feel like a badass every time you hit and/or break a new fitness goal (one more rep! one more weight! one more mile!), and you’ll feel like a badass in that post-op cool down period, and you’ll KEEP feelin’ like a badass when your fitness regime has you lookin’ and feelin’ amazing.
Put people first, always. People thinking of badassery as being a negative thing sometimes – of being brash, rude, or too cool for school. But being a badass doesn’t mean you have to be an a$$hat. It’s all in the attitude, but badasses don’t have bad attitudes! If anything, you need a good attitude as often as possible, constantly bouncing back after “failures” and pushing onward towards your goals. Part of fueling that constant feel-good mentality is putting others first. Fosho. You feel better when giving – it’s natural human instinct. Be as selfless as possible, and always be there to help others in need. It doesn’t mean be a doormat – cos when have you ever seen a badass doormat besides @ Target?? – but to just be a good person, prioritizing others, too.
Create a badass playlist. Or just follow mine. 😉
Courageously live what you love. Stop letting other people determine your life path. Stop putting the determination of your personal contentment in another’s hands. Stop relying on others to make you happy. I said it on Instagram the other day and it seemed to really resonate with y’all…you don’t need a permission slip for life. Whether you want to be a brain surgeon or ballerina, a work-from-home entrepreneur or a stay-at-home mama, YOU CAN. You need no permission slip. You need no magic potion. You need no green light. The green light has been on all along, girl. You can go. The only question is…how fast, and how far? Be courageous enough to live what YOU love – not what anyone else tells you you should love. The most badass thing of all is to live this life knowing you truly, wholeheartedly gave it your all. Don’t waste your days living it with what-if’s, excuses and complaints. Live what you love, and never be afraid to settle for more.
Stand up for yourself. The most badass thing of all is having the courage to stand by your own choices. As you live what you love, always stand up for yourself. Being a badass means being brave enough to stand unfaltering in the face of adversity. When you are challenged, be smart enough to have done your research ahead of time, and be brave enough to stand up and support it.
Expect success. Your mind is your most powerful tool. So many of our thoughts literally dictate the course of our lives, because as the saying goes, “As you think, so shall you be.” So, when you think negatively and constantly rag on yourself, you’re actually perpetuating those negative attitudes and bringing them to fruition and actualization in your life. Scary, but true. You work hard and have so much to offer the world – EXPECT your own success! When you’re sowing the seeds, you will blossom. It’s not magic – it’s science. Do the work, put in the time, and expect success to come. If by chance you don’t think it’s coming, revert back to bullet point numero nine. 😉
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What gets you feeling like a total badass?
I’d lovelovelove to hear your own pump up mechanisms. Do you have a badass song/playlist? A piece of clothing? An accessory or mantra? Whatever it is, drop it in a comment below. I’m sure a lotta peeps could benefit from your badass recommendations!