It’s been quite the transition, to say the least, from graduating from Wharton to going full time as an entrepreneur. Coming Up Roses has *felt* like a full time gig for three years, but being in the place and mindset of it actually being a paying full time job is so different than just devoting all of your time on a full-time passion.
One of my own biggest personal struggles is truly feeling successful.
I’m often blown away by the amount of comments here and across social media that so sweetly compliment me or call me a “boss” – I love that, but it’s also so hard to feel like it’s true in those moments when I feel like I’m just drowning in to-do’s and deadlines galore. My own biggest struggle is actually giving myself time for ME – to genuinely relax, to unplug fully, to just savor a moment of accomplishment and acknowledge it for what it is.
In the world of blogging and social media, there’s always room for “more” – more readers, more followers, more income, more partnerships, more impact, more reach.
At first, it was thrilling to me and it felt like endless possibility awaited.
But it soon got to a point where it had negative effects. It was harder and harder to feel truly satisfied with any accomplishment. It was near impossible to set hard timelines and schedules when anything and everything could pop into your inbox at any moment. It was easier to think of people as numbers instead of numbers as individual people. And it brought me close to total burnout.
I went to the doctor for what I thought was anemia. Turns out…my body was just experiencing major physical manifestations of stress.
This has been my wake up call.
I do not want to be one of those people who gives up their life for the sake of their work. Granted, this is so so so so so hard in a very public online career, since your life IS your work in a lot of ways. And I absolutely lovelovelove what I do – I’m so stinkin’ thankful for it and for you and I wouldn’t change that for the WORLD. But at the end of the day, we work to live – not live to work. I want to genuinely ENJOY every single second – getting sick and experiencing physical discomfort as a result of not putting myself first, but putting work first, isn’t good. For anyone.
When you want to change your life – when you want to be in a different place than where you are right now – knowing you need to a change simply isn’t enough. You’ve gotta know HOW to go from Point A to Point B before you can actually get there. And that can be hella difficult sans a map. Like, wouldn’t it be nice if life had a GPS sometimes to help a sistah out?!? Alas, that ain’t gonna happen anytime soon, so we’ve gotta rely on tactical steps and resources before us to help us get to this place where we truly sit back and feel a sense of success and accomplishment – this idealistic “personal place.” Here, we’re comfortable but not living in a comfort zone – we’re comfortable enough to be working in flow out of near instinct in our zone of genius. We’re comfortable enough to let down our guard to connect with others, and we’re comfortable enough to exercise genuine discernment in our lives, making decisions that aren’t necessarily easy, but are smart.
I’m partnering with Concordia University Wisconsin to share an awesome *free* program that they have – a mini-course done over a 3-email video series (complete with mini essays, journals, and printables, too), designed to help you know yourself better and discern best next steps on your own path towards a personal place of success.
There are inward and outward-directed strategies involved in finding this place for yourself. Finding it requires you to be comfortable considering what your life goals and accomplishments are. After completing this course, you will know yourself better and what it will take to take the next strategic step towards success. It covers why having a personal place is needed, how to teach yourself to professionally grow, the importance of connecting, and how to succeed with encouragement – all taught by the Program Director for the Master’s of Organizational Leadership and Administration (OLA). Concordia is a Christian University, too, so each lesson has some spiritual or faith-based notes interwoven, which I lovelovelove and appreciate. And the OLA is considered to be an alternative to an MBA, focusing on personal growth and leadership potential. A totally awesome option if you’re looking to step up your career, professionalism, and life.
I’ve done the course myself and lovelovelove – it’s such an easy way to expand your horizons; it’s time to figure out who you are, figure out what’s missing, and figure out what’s in the air for you next and how to get there. Ain’t nobody got time for a life lacking fulfillment and purpose.
“For many, life consists of rose-colored memories undone by reality.”
This so stuck out to me, and it resonates hardcore with this stage of life (and the blog in general – yannnno, Coming Up Roses? Ha!). Oftentimes, we confuse the phrase “everything’s coming up roses” with the idea of unrealistic, naive optimism that everything is beautiful and perfect and sunshine-y and unicorn-ish all the time.
But that’s bullsh*t.
Roses are beautiful, but they’re not without their thorns. Reality is just that…reality. Real life is anything but perfect, but it always has the potential to be beautiful. For any of you maybe going through similar growing pains as we approach 2017, know that you’re a.) not alone, b.) totally capable of the seemingly impossible, c.) totally READY for the seemingly impossible, because there’s no better time than right now.
SO. If you’re ISO your personal place, sign up for the free Concordia email course. Take the first step towards making it happen. You’re worth it, and you deserve it, and you CAN be and feel successful. Your time is now.
Have you found your personal place of success?
What does success mean to you? Does something like Concordia University’s free email course sound helpful to you on your own life path? Let’s chat the real, good rosy stuff in the comments below.
*This post is in partnership with Concordia University Wisconsin. As always, all opinions and thoughts presented are entirely my own. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Coming Up Roses!