Back at it again with Monday, so a new Monday Mantra is only fitting amiright?? I heard a quote recently that ended up being inspiration for a book by the same name, and I legit *gasped* upon hearing it. Cos it’s just so dang good. And we’re all about spreading the goodness around these rosy parts, so I’m hoping this quotable/tweetable/pinnable/shareable mantra makes for some serious motivation this Monday morning.
Dr. Phil once said, “The difference between you and someone you envy is that you settled for less.”
Read that humdinger again.
Instead, you’ve got to settle for more.
Yannno the phrase “Don’t settle for less than you deserve.” But honestly, the struggle is real when it comes to actually knowing “what you deserve.” I think “what you deserve” is also cyclical and based on so many factors under the sun that it becomes near impossible to figure that phrase out with confidence and true clarity.
It’s cliche, and ain’t nobody got time for cliche.
Because when something is cliche, it carries less influential meaning in our brains. At this point, ya probably shrug it off whenever someone throws a good ol’ “don’t settle for less than you deserve!” your way, and ya don’t *really* know what it *really* means in the context of your own life.
Settling for more is stronger.
It says the same thing, but in a more positive, proactive way.
Settling for more requires guts. It means you’ve gotta work hard, look ahead, look up, look progressively towards your goals and dreams and aspirations, and actually take action to make it all happen. (Dreams take action, just like we talked about in last night’s #CURation 😉 ). When you’ve got the right mindset and are living in abundance, you can’t focus on what you don’t want – cos you just might actually inspire what you don’t want to happen. Instead, it’s gotta all be coming up roses up there to really set your life up for the good to come on in.
Think of everything you do like a big self fulfilling prophecy. Continually focusing on what you *don’t* want (ie: “don’t settle for less!“) doesn’t actually help define and drive you towards the “more” you seek.
And then there’s the whole “but you don’t deserve more” – an internal battle that plagues so many of our minds when we’re twisted in knots about how much time/energy/resources/etc to devote to these seemingly far-off dreams and goals on our hearts. Where we feel that others are surely “more deserving,” and we’re okay settling for a little less if it means we’re being “unselfish,” “smart,” “practical,” or “fill-in-the-blank-with-whatever-other-excuse-you-have-for-not-going-after-your-goals-with-gumption.”
Alright alright alriiiiiight, we’ve gotta have a lil’ talk about this one.
Cos goshdarnit, it’s time to debunk the myths that live inside your head as to why you don’t truly deserve the raise, deserve the dream job, deserve the great love, deserve the amazing place, deserve the good grades…we’re done with that. It’s so hard to wake up feeling like there’s nothing you want more than your dream, whatever that may be – the “more” you seek. And then subsequently thinking that there’s probably someone who deserves it more.
Ok…Deserves what more? A nice place to live? A loving boyfriend? An A in your favorite course? A bonus from your job? A new job altogether? …Happiness???
Girlfriend, no on deserves happiness more than you. No one deserves more more than you. Settling for more is about recognizing your own self-worth and value and going after what you deserve with conviction. And sometimes, the hard truth of the matter is that we don’t respect our dreams – our “more” – enough to give them half a waking chance.
Sometimes we don’t open our eyes enough to see our own goodness. And that’s so so so bad, because it sells you short of the more that’s out there for you.
You are completely, totally, holistically responsible for your own happiness. And you deserve every ounce of it.
Settling for more is your call to action to create the life you actually want to be living.
Granted, there’s a fine line between opting to settle for more and never truly being happy – never reaching this place of contentment, and/or never knowing or feeling like you’ve truly “made it” to this place of more. I can’t lie and say I have an answer for that, cos I don’t – and I don’t think anyone really does. There will always be waves when you’re feeling super ambitious and striving so hard for more, not really happy with where you’re at and wanting to improve in some way or another. But I do think the key lies in realizing how blessed you are, all of the time, and being able to recognize that and never lose sight of the why while striving for the more.
Settling for more means learning how to be happy along the journey, even if/when the journey isn’t exactly a happy one at that.
Settle for more, knowing that you deserve it.
Settle for more, knowing that you’re worth it.
Settle for more, knowing that it’s possible, and you have the power to make it happen (+ others to help along the way!).
The difference between you and someone you envy is that you settled for less. Don’t settle for less. Settle for more.
How will you settle for more this week?
I wanna know. Cos conviction and commitment starts with commenting down below and having someone hold ya accountable to your dream. Say it out loud, write it down, hit publish on a comment, and let others in this rosy lil’ community support you in making it happen this week and then some.
P.S. I mentioned the #CURation above…but what the heck is it?! The #CURation is a personalized email that hits inboxes once per week, on Sunday evenings, jampacked with something inspirational (+ sometimes printable), something wishlist-worthy, something pinnable, something watchable, + something readable (meaning a quick re-cap of the prior week’s CUR posts ICYMI!). It’s a fun curation (ha – get it?) to start your week off right. Want in? Just sign up here – you can opt out at any time, but I think you’ll wanna stick around for awhile. 😉
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