10 Things I’d Tell Teenage Girls {Pt. 1}

For a few more days, I’m 19. So by no means am I an expert on teenage-hood or anything that comes with it (besides eating ice cream, because I’ve definitely mastered that). Most days I feel like I’ve blindly stumbled through it all (hitting walls – literally, because I always end up walking into walls – along the way). But in the calms between the storms, I could reflect on what I would want my own hypothetical teenage daughter to know someday, before she had to learn it the hard way.

So with that…

10 things I'd tell
1. You do not (read: DO NOT) need to dress less to impress. Meaning, skip the scantily clad – the one you’re trying to attract should love you not just for what’s under your clothes, but for what’s under your skin and inside your heart and soul and mind.

2. Guys are a different species. They mature at a slower rate than females (it’s scientifically proven), so stop stressing about being *insert tween – teen year here* and not having found your Prince Charming. I have been and forever will be a solid believer in the saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” As a girl who’s had her time playing the dating game (and quite a few kiss-and-disses), and who’s now in a happy&healthy long-term relationship, IT WILL HAPPEN FOR YOU. And if by some bad chance you end up not finding a marriage-material beau by age 25, it is not the end of the world. You have not made a fatal error, and you can (and will) still be happy and successful.

3. As an immediate successor to #2, don’t tie your happiness solely to a man. You must be completely confident in yourself and what you have to offer before trying to make something work with someone else in the picture, too. Focus on you, and the rest will fall into place. The passers-by are meant to teach you the “wants,” “needs,” and “no thanks” categories for your imaginary (or not so imaginary) dating checklist.

4. There IS such a thing as “too much information.” We all seem to bond by sharing our grossest moments nowadays, but the saying “there’s a time and a place for everything” still exists.

5. Your self-esteem (and self-confidence, self-happiness, self-pride, the works) can come from only one person – yourself. Stop waiting for the world to tell you that you’re beautiful, smart, or talented. You were blessed with a heart, soul, and mind 100% unique to you – why are you willing to lessen your uniqueness to blend with the rest? Start raising yourself up instead of looking for that constant self put-down. Focus on your fave outer features and your fabulous inner radiance. Your confidence shines brighter than any teeth whitener, luminous powder, or eye shimmer.

Now please enjoy some awkward pictures of me from teenagedom.

Yes, we did think posing with a ketchup-covered eating utensil at Applebee's was the cool thing to do.

Yes, we did think posing with a ketchup-covered eating utensil at Applebee’s was the cool thing to do.

Is this a duck face?

I’m duck facing, right?

The objective is to put as much grease-y burger in your mouth as humanly possible. Wash it down with fries.

The objective is to put as much burger in your mouth as  possible and wash it down with fries.

Let's just eat the train ticket, shall we?

Let’s just eat the train ticket, shall we?

Ooh lolli-lolli-lolli-lollipop.

Ooh lolli-lolli-lolli-lollipop.

Now I know what you’re thinking. “But wait, that was only 5 things to tell teenage girls? Where’s the other 5????”

Presenting Part 2…10 Things I’d Tell Teenage Girls {Pt. 2}.

Meanwhile, be sure share with any sub-20’s in your life if you agree, and check out this awesome post by mommy-blogger Kate Conner on the same topic.

What have you learned from your teenage years? What would you tell teenage you if you were to go back and do it all over again (*shivers*)?



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